Advice to Masters from an Old Guard Master
Since I have been trained in Faith and Trust - first in the military, the Masons, and in "Old Guard" tradition - everything I say are merely ideas and thoughts that were given to ME!
#1. Learn to have Faith and Trust in YOURSELF - first! Until you can do that you can never hope to convey it to others - AND believe ME - it is conveyed in the unspoken - well before you can put words to it, AND it is visible to others - Often it is the indefinable something about YOU - Some will be frightened of it - because it is so unusual - ( In some cases "they" have never seen it before - which is a terrible comment on O/our current world - and what is new and different is scary ) Hold firm to YOUR word and actions - If YOU promise something - fulfill the promise - If YOU agree to do something - follow through. Make a religion of it if necessary until it becomes second nature. Once this is established in YOUR "other world" Life - it will become a part of YOU in YOUR Leather Life.
#2. BE HONEST and RESPECT YOURSELF - first - BE it - don't just "ACT" it. Then show it to all others. Let them prove to YOU that they are not worthy of YOUR RESPECT and HONESTY - in cyber chat that takes usually about three exchanges. ESPECIALLY with potentials - DEMAND it of them - even if they say they don't "KNOW" YOU - HAVE PRINCIPALS AND STICK TO THEM. IF YOU lead from Self Respect and Confidence, "they" WILL follow.
#3 Do away with any word that indicates or could indicate less than ADULT actions in terms of YOUR S&M Life i.e. "playroom" - "toys" - "play" - "games" ETC. - Check YOUR vocabulary - when speaking with other Masters and especially potentials. What W/we do in the dungeon or elsewhere may be enjoyable to us - BUT - sticking a 16ga. needle into the testicle of a property is not "play" ( sorry if I used an example that is beyond YOUR experience). The use of these words promotes the ideas of arrested psychological development - a lack of Adult values and responsibility. Ex: There is nothing about a 200,000 volt stun gun that in anyway could be considered a "toy" - a catheter is not a "toy" - a flogger or single tail is not a "toy" - They all MAY produce a pleasurable feeling in US but there is nothing childish about any of the "gear " WE use. Be direct and honest about these things - IF YOU are not afraid of a word like - "Dungeon"- neither will the potential. "They" take there lead from US - REMEMBER! Let the potential and other Masters KNOW that S&M is a "PLEASURABLE" part of a sane ADULT LIFE - not the frivolity of children.
#4. Many - TOO many of the folks in and out of LEATHER TODAY have never grown up.
The responsibilities of ADULTHOOD are more than they wish to shoulder. Their life is a "drama" of "playing" at being an ADULT. Do NOT play to them! Eliminate "drama" from YOUR own life first - THEN - BE an ADULT - do not merely "act" like one. Loose words like "scene" - "role play" and any others that implicate "drama" as a part of what YOU do in YOUR S&M Life.
Substitute "session" for "scene" etc.
#5. YOU are not "into" blood or scat or whatever - " YOU are pleasured by these things or YOU are not - EX: I find PLEASURE in single tail whipping, I AM PLEASED in the use of needles and knives etc. etc...
FINALLY, ( And this is BY NO MEANS the end of it ) LOOK at the world through the eyes of that potential - Those beautiful - Want to TRUST and Want to have Faith eyes, AND realize YOU ARE WHAT it WANTS AND NEEDS - (IF YOU ARE) AND IF You are not - BE HONEST with YOURSELF and it and send it on its way. IF YOU do what I have SUGGESTED above, ( AND there are some other more advanced things ) I know YOU will see a change in YOUR rate of success.
#1. Learn to have Faith and Trust in YOURSELF - first! Until you can do that you can never hope to convey it to others - AND believe ME - it is conveyed in the unspoken - well before you can put words to it, AND it is visible to others - Often it is the indefinable something about YOU - Some will be frightened of it - because it is so unusual - ( In some cases "they" have never seen it before - which is a terrible comment on O/our current world - and what is new and different is scary ) Hold firm to YOUR word and actions - If YOU promise something - fulfill the promise - If YOU agree to do something - follow through. Make a religion of it if necessary until it becomes second nature. Once this is established in YOUR "other world" Life - it will become a part of YOU in YOUR Leather Life.
#2. BE HONEST and RESPECT YOURSELF - first - BE it - don't just "ACT" it. Then show it to all others. Let them prove to YOU that they are not worthy of YOUR RESPECT and HONESTY - in cyber chat that takes usually about three exchanges. ESPECIALLY with potentials - DEMAND it of them - even if they say they don't "KNOW" YOU - HAVE PRINCIPALS AND STICK TO THEM. IF YOU lead from Self Respect and Confidence, "they" WILL follow.
#3 Do away with any word that indicates or could indicate less than ADULT actions in terms of YOUR S&M Life i.e. "playroom" - "toys" - "play" - "games" ETC. - Check YOUR vocabulary - when speaking with other Masters and especially potentials. What W/we do in the dungeon or elsewhere may be enjoyable to us - BUT - sticking a 16ga. needle into the testicle of a property is not "play" ( sorry if I used an example that is beyond YOUR experience). The use of these words promotes the ideas of arrested psychological development - a lack of Adult values and responsibility. Ex: There is nothing about a 200,000 volt stun gun that in anyway could be considered a "toy" - a catheter is not a "toy" - a flogger or single tail is not a "toy" - They all MAY produce a pleasurable feeling in US but there is nothing childish about any of the "gear " WE use. Be direct and honest about these things - IF YOU are not afraid of a word like - "Dungeon"- neither will the potential. "They" take there lead from US - REMEMBER! Let the potential and other Masters KNOW that S&M is a "PLEASURABLE" part of a sane ADULT LIFE - not the frivolity of children.
#4. Many - TOO many of the folks in and out of LEATHER TODAY have never grown up.
The responsibilities of ADULTHOOD are more than they wish to shoulder. Their life is a "drama" of "playing" at being an ADULT. Do NOT play to them! Eliminate "drama" from YOUR own life first - THEN - BE an ADULT - do not merely "act" like one. Loose words like "scene" - "role play" and any others that implicate "drama" as a part of what YOU do in YOUR S&M Life.
Substitute "session" for "scene" etc.
#5. YOU are not "into" blood or scat or whatever - " YOU are pleasured by these things or YOU are not - EX: I find PLEASURE in single tail whipping, I AM PLEASED in the use of needles and knives etc. etc...
FINALLY, ( And this is BY NO MEANS the end of it ) LOOK at the world through the eyes of that potential - Those beautiful - Want to TRUST and Want to have Faith eyes, AND realize YOU ARE WHAT it WANTS AND NEEDS - (IF YOU ARE) AND IF You are not - BE HONEST with YOURSELF and it and send it on its way. IF YOU do what I have SUGGESTED above, ( AND there are some other more advanced things ) I know YOU will see a change in YOUR rate of success.